I wanted to let you all know that we lost our little Lola Bean on Tuesday - just about one month after Finn. She had a stroke in the night and we could not save her.
My heart is broken.
In the end, I just don't think she could do without Finn. They always belonged to each other more than they belonged to me and she was lost without him. If it makes any difference, I think she tried. But her heart was more broken than I knew.
It's so hard for me to accept that this shining little light is gone from my life. I know that they are together now and I hope they will always be.
Tonya and Gary
We wanted to let you all know that we lost Finn on Monday night - around midnight. He started seizing at around 10:00 p.m. and although we could ease his symptoms we could not help him and we knew that the cancer had taken a hold from which it would not let go. He was happy and content right to the end - he had such a strong heart! But on Monday we knew that is was his time and we know that he is now at peace.
He had the most beautiful day - and 3 bites of steak for dinner. And he had the most beautiful life. He gave us every happiness and we can only pray that we, in turn, gave every happiness to him.
We are so blessed to have had him in our lives and we are eternally grateful that he was so happy and filled with such strength and such joy and such love. He was - truly- the sweetest and most gentle soul we have ever known. We are blessed and honored that we had as much time with him as we did and are forever and endlessly grateful for the deep, beautiful blessing of his life.
But - losing him - the heart simply breaks open....
Tonya, Gary and Lola Bean.
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
Please keep our little Finn in your prayers. On Wednesday night he experienced two seizures - the second much worse than the first. We rushed him to the emergency vet.
After blood tests they discovered that his glucose is very low and that he most likely has an insulinoma, a pancreatic cancer. Given his age, we have chosen not to put him through aggressive treatment. We have consulted with our (his) vet and the internist who specializes in these things and have agreed to treat him with steroids and food management for as long as we can keep him comfortable. Unfortunately, his days are drawing short.
I love this picture of him - which we took last summer. Now, writing this, I'm not sure if he'll be here for the heat this summer. His life has had been nothing but a blessing to me and to all who know him. He is truly just a little angel.
If you pray, please pray for him and for us as we begin our final walk together. If you don't pray, we'd appreciate it if you'd just keep him in your thoughts. The knowledge that I will soon lose my precious baby is overwhelming to me and I am struggling to accept it so that I can focus on caring for him in his last days. At other times I am comforted in knowing that he has had a happy life - and that I pray that I have given him as many happinesses as he deserves.
xo - tonya
Posted by The Bee Charmer at 4:18 PM
I know - I've been MIA....
Well, not really. I've been MIA from the blog. I've been very immersed in the rest of my life. So much so that the blog is suffering.
Like the rest of my life, the blog is in transition.
I know y'all think it looks like I'm not doing anything but I'm actually thinking a lot about the future of this little blog and I need to make some changes. I just don't know how to do it.
Literally - I hired someone to do a template for me and now I can't change it and I want to. So I'm looking into it and in the meantime I'm sort of mentally stuck. Part of the problem with being me is that this kind of shit just freaks me out. And so I'm stuck.
But trust me when I tell you that I'm giving it lots of thought.
In the meantime, I know y'all all spent all year looking forward to my New Year's Resolutions but I swear I haven't had many thoughts this year ....
So far, I've only come up with a couple:
The first is to learn to make pho (I found a recipe).
The second is to love my life more - even when it's hard.
I hope that you can glean from this blog that I wish to be grateful, to be full of gratitude and no matter how grateful I ever am, I don't feel like I'm grateful enough. So I'm trying to be more grateful this year, more in love, more engaged, even when its hard.
So thanks for stopping by and I hope you all had a lovely, lovely holiday season.
I'll be in and out while I struggle with this. Thanks to all who visit!
Happy Weekend, everyone!
Our thoughts and prayers are with all those affected by Hurricane Sandy. Please consider donating to the American Red Cross, supported heartily here at Chateau Bee Charmer.
Also remember that the time changes this weekend - an extra hour of sleep on Sunday morning! Yay!
Stay safe and warm. Much love and peace to you all.
Image: Winter Lights by Elle Moss Photography.